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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/no_1_mo on 2023-09-18 20:17:32.

Tw: csa, PTSD, mention of assault

My mom remarried when I was 4. Her husband sexually abused me until I left at age 20 (I am 29f now). My spouse has been instrumental in my realizing I was abused, leaving, and getting help. She is very aware I repressed everything until I was safely out. I only started consciously remembering and addressing the abuse 7-8 years ago.

I was talking to her today about a memory from when I was around 19 - probably during the first summer she and I were dating, when I lived at home still and she was at her childhood home 80 miles away for the summer. (We had talked about this incident and it’s timing before - this particular memory resurfaced about a year ago). Today, she realized that meant we were likely texting that day, and I hadn’t told her right when it had happened. Now, she told me she is questioning whether it actually happened, whether any of it is real, and said I LET him touch me while we were together.

This is completely out of the blue. I have questioned my own memories before, and she has always backed me up and believed me. Always.

I don’t know how to look at her right now, let alone trust her.