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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DependentPen3347 on 2023-09-18 20:10:26.

Backstory, my father was an aggressive alcoholic, all my childhood memories with him are of him wanting things in our house and attacking my mother, I grew up in this environment and only freed myself when I turned 18 and moved out.

In any case, I cut off contact with him, my brothers still talk to him, it was my brothers who told me about our father’s health condition, his liver is compromised and he will have to undergo a transplant.

My brother and sister were tested and cannot donate, I refused to take the test, I wouldn’t donate even a strand of hair to him, let alone my liver.

My sister convinced me to visit him, my father was depressed, crying and asking for my help, he asked me for forgiveness for the past and promised me that things will be different now.

I stood my ground, I’m not going to donate and I’m not even going to forgive him for his past, my family has been calling me an asshole for not helping him, am I an asshole?

EDIT: some people asked me about my father’s sobriety, I didn’t include it in the post because I didn’t see the need, according to my sister he has been sober for some time, he also needs to be sober for the surgery, but I can’t say for sure about that and I can’t even say if this is rehab or any positive sign.