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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Impressive_Grab_3568 on 2023-09-19 01:23:56.

I29f have been married to my husband30 for a year and a half. I am in my starting years as an resident in the medical field and over the past 2 years I have witnessed how badly obesity affects your health and how there are woman with new born babies and their husbands out of breath or vise versa. My husband isn’t necessarily unhealthy but he is overweight, and we have had discussions of trying for a baby. I love my husband but he’s pushing 250. He eats horribly. He has issues bringing groceries in. I can’t do this alone and I need a healthy husband. I have been trying to take better care of myself and cook better meals for him or go to the gym whenever I can and have been encouraging my husband to do better but he has yet too.

I finally told him, to either begin working out or we will not be having a baby. I told him if I’m having a baby I need him to keep up with me, and that I will not do this alone. He got very upset and said that was so unfair to with hold from him and that he’d be a great dad despite his weight. I tried to explain I witness it all the time, and how he’d feel much better and he needs to feel energized with a baby and healthy, but he told me I was just being insulting, and rude. He accused me of being inconsiderate of his feelings because I know how badly he wants a baby.

I want a baby as well, but I need a healthy husband and a healthy support team. I have been encouraging him for years, and not just for a baby for himself. AITA?