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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Crafty_Peak_2853 on 2023-09-19 00:03:12.

We’ve been in a serious relationship, living together for a year and planned to have kids (both of us nearly 40). I know that camping nude is something she does often. In fact, we recently spent 10 days doing that in one very popular and crowded nudist beach in Greece.

As a woman, she has mostly male friends. I was about to go on a work trip and I found out she wanted, while I couldn’t attend, to spend a week or so at that same place with a company of male friends (maybe also a girl friend of hers). In the end she didn’t, though I urged her to go, though I felt uncomfortable with the idea but I didn’t want to spoil it for her.

I really can’t explain why, but I find it insulting that she’d do that. We talked about this and I explained that I’d personally wouldn’t even think of asking the same from her, ie to have a few female friends and camp nude with them for a week, while in a relationship.

She errupted and found my point of view extremely conservative. When I asked if she’d be ok with sleeping in the same tent with one of her male friends, she said of course.

She attributed my reservations to patriarchy and clearly emotionally charged, said that it’s her body and she’ll decide who to show it to. I didn’t have the chance to explain that of course it’s her body, I claim no control over it. I just don’t feel comfortable at all with either situation above. So, am I the ass here for being uncomfortable with something like that?