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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Midwestman_23 on 2023-09-19 01:48:48.

My sister 33 (F) hasn’t been in my life or anyone in our families lives for over 10 years. She hasn’t let any family speak to her or her children (4 boys) in that time. She is extremely narcissistic, lies, and steals from everyone she’s ever been in contact with. She moved across country and cut off everyone including our parents.

Now the state is reaching out as 1 of her 4 boys has been taken away. My nephew is 13 almost 14 and has been through a lot due to what my sister has put them through (many partners, homelessness, bouncing from house to house, not having them in school, drug use, and God knows what else).

My dilemma is I don’t know what lies have been drilled into this child’s head over the last 10 plus years. I personally haven’t seen this child since he was 2 or 3 years old. I don’t know what kind of psychological, emotional, and educational issues he has due to his poor upbringing.

To add to that I’m recently married, expecting my first child, and busy with my own life with my wife and soon to be child.

AITA for not wanting to take my nephew in with all the unknowns especially since he really doesn’t know me?