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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/anabananna1 on 2023-09-19 08:25:47.

I feel so embarrassed even typing this out. My boyfriend (29M) and I both live at home with our parents… we’re south Asian so it’s not uncommon. This makes it hard for us to find places to get down and dirty, leaving us to having car sex often. I never really thought much of it, it definitely wasn’t ideal, being all contorted like that in the car. But today, we decided to go to a park that we both weren’t too familiar with. About 30 minutes into it, a police car drove up. I was quickly able to put my clothes on and so was my bf before the officer approached us. Obviously he knew what we were doing, he took our ID’s and basically told us to get out of here so we did.

I was driving home after that whole fiasco and I thought to myself, I’m 30 years old and I got caught having sex in the car. I’m not trying to blame my boyfriend because I know I was an equal participant but it really made me think, what am I doing with my life? If I’m being honest, my relationship with my boyfriend hasn’t been that great anyways, and there have been a lot of things on my mind about us. We’ve been dating for 18 months and it feels like our relationship isn’t progressing at all. It seems like all I do with him when I see him is eat food and have sex. It’s become a routine for us. And I’ve been feeling used, almost. Like it’s just a physical relationship.

I also can’t help but feel that his feelings for me isn’t as strong as my feelings for him. I’m definitely one of those types of people who will stick through the relationship when I know in reality I should leave. It’s so hard for me because I’m so attached to him. I recently started therapy so I’m definitely working on these issues. After getting caught, I was definitely feeling so different about everything. This evening when I saw him, it had been almost a month since seeing him. We’ve both had really busy schedules but it was mostly him. I came home and told my mom that it kind of sucked that we’ve gone this long without seeing each other and we only spent 1.5 hours just sitting in the car “talking” and that I would think he would want to take me out or something. My mom’s response was “this always happens because you allow it to happen”. This was definitely the reality check I needed from my mom. I’m embarrassed for myself.