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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ForsakenSink6516 on 2023-09-19 10:32:13.

Hello,

This is going to come across as a bit of a rant but I can’t help myself. I’m going to start from the start. My sister and I are our parents (m(62), f(59)) only children. My father went to Harvard, and my mother attended Johns Hopkins and works as a pediatrician. I work in the tech industry, and graduated from MIT with a degree in comp-sci.

Meanwhile my sister got pregnant at 20 (they got married at 18), and kept the child, despite our parents saying they would pay for the abortion. My parents stopped paying for her education after that, and for lack of better terms, left her to her own devices. She dropped out, and her husband continued, getting his bachelors in comp-sci 1 year later.

8 years removed from this, I work at a top tech company. I live alone and make over 6 figures. My family have all reconciled, and my sister and her husband have moved back for his work. During dinner last night, the conversation shifted to what their life was like while we were estranged, and my sister brought up how tough it was on their own, but they made it work. During this, they brought up her husbands degrees, and my father and I chuckled when she mentioned he’d gotten his masters degree in comp-sci, as he’d gotten it from one of the worst schools, and got his MBA from an online university, so essentially both were papermills.

Talks then went on to how much he was making, where he mentioned he was set to make over 300k. When hearing this, I was in shock and told him to prove it, to which he asked “why, don’t you believe me”, and both my father and I both said no. This clearly insulted him a bit and he said he had nothing to prove. We then went back and forth until he said something about half the cost (regarding his degree cost to mine) and double the reward (in regard to his salary to mine, I’d shared my salary with my sister earlier in the year, guess she’d told him). This caused a bit more disagreement, with my father and mother defending me, until they had to go back home as their baby sitter (f 20) had classes the next day.

On their way home, my sister sent me a screenshot of his salary, and told me how disappointed she was in myself and our parents for how we’d acted. I then sent her an angry voice message about why she wouldn’t tell me about this earlier, and how she should have defended me because anyone would be in shock with all the facts. She then responded saying my parents and I were bitter because he was more successful than us at a younger age. I then told her to not come to my parents house until both she and her husband apologized. I decided to stay at my parents house for the night as I didnt bring a car, and didn’t feel safe walking or calling a taxi late at night. As I was sitting with my parents, my mother then says we were all too hard on them, and he had good reason to be a little boastful considering how we’d treated them. My father and I strongly disagree, as we believe he should have been more respectful all things considered. AITA?