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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Some-Reflection-5243 on 2023-09-19 12:04:15.

Sorry if there’s any mistakes my wording or writing, English isn’t my first language and I’ll be grateful if you can correct me.

For some context, I (25f) came with my family to the U.S 7 years ago we came in the legal way since my dad was an U.S citizen, I went to highschool for a while and the started working and saving money, my sister (29) was an party animal, she used to party every weekend and never saved money fast forward to 5 months ago she met a boy (28) which I’ll call Juan, Juan came to U.S one year ago and she met him at work became friends and later started dating, Juan is an illegal immigrant, I don’t have any problems with that at all, I can’t say that we’re friends but I don’t dislike him either, going back to the story, a month ago my sister invited us (mom and little sister) to have lunch with her and her husband, I was happy to go since it was a long time without seeing her, everything was going well until she grabbed my hand and squeezed it looking at my dead straight in the eyes and asked me if I could borrow her 5k in order to pay for her husband lawyer, I told her that I couldn’t do that because that money was for my trip to Japan, (a country ive always wanted to visit) she then told me that the trip could wait a few years more and that her husband needed the money more than me because apparently he was in danger of being deported, the whole time her husband was just watching me and freaking smirking waiting for me to give them the money, my mom ans sisyer just stayed silent because they couldn’t believe what they just heard, she tried to talk me into giving them the money, and then she tried to guilt tripped me by saying that is her husband gets deported is gonna be my fault, I told her that I didn’t care that it was my money, oh boy, big mistake, she absolutely lost it and started to yell at me saying that I was a disgusting spolied little brat and that the trip wasn’t even as important as helping someone in need, I once again told her that i didn’t care and that maybe if shw had better spending habits she would have the money to help her husband, she and her husband left the restaurant after that, crying after that she texted me and told me that she was expecting me to apologize to her husband for being a self centered little bitch that only cares about herself, she’s been pretty much harassing me saying how selfish and disgusting I am and lately I’ve thinking that she may be right, and that I should just lend them the money, so reddit, AITA?