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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok_Chip5166 on 2023-09-19 08:46:19.

I F(28) and my BF(M27) have been living together for the last 3 years. For the first year we were just roommates and then we started dating each other. Since we started as roomates we never changed the chores and financal distribution everything is equal.

6 months ago he quit his job as he has investments with returns that cover all of his expenses and more. At first I didn’t think anything of it he just called it an early retirement. He is always home playing video games or doing something around the house or going out. Now he does do his portion of the chores but considering he has so much time now, I asked if he can maybe take over a few of my chores. I asked this because lately I am overwhelmed with work and then come home and cook for myself and do some chores.

But he refused and said “we have everything split equally now if I couldn’t handle my share of the bill I would have definitely compensated that by handling majority if not all the chores. But considering I do contribute equally I don’t want to take on more work.” I tried to argue but to it had no effect. I was really upset and he could feel it because he did come to me and tried to make up but refused to contribute more and is now upset that I am expecting something that he just doesn’t want to or even have to do. And that I am being a dick by pushing the subject.