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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/JustHereThis1Time on 2023-09-19 17:14:56.

I (35f) work internationally as a contracted linguist for a slew of major corporations. It is my dream job and I have worked my whole life for it. My mother wanted me to go into the military and I refused, so she spent my life telling me that my sister (25) was her favorite. So as soon as I turned 18 I moved out.

Fast forward a few years, my mother got into a wreck and passed away. My sister had to sell my mom’s house since she never worked a day in her life so she had no money. My sister used all the money she got from the house to go on a month long trip in Europe. And when she got back I took pity on her and took her in.

My sister was incredibly depressed and wouldn’t eat, wouldn’t shower, wouldn’t leave her room for WEEKS. I decided to check on her at least a few times a week and once I walked into her attempting. I immediately took her to the hospital and she was admitted for 3 weeks before she was released back to me. And this is the start of a cycle.

About a month later I was running late for work but she said she was having dark thoughts so I called my boss and then took my sister to the hospital again. I have taken her to the psychiatric hospital about five times in the past 6 months. I don’t mind helping her get through this, but she won’t get help. She refuses to go to an actual therapist and just goes to the psychiatric hospital whenever she feels the thoughts coming back.

I have put her on my insurance and had them mail me a list of psychiatrists and she refuses to look at it. I have had to miss a week’s worth of work because she tells me in the morning while I’m on my way to work that she’s having dark thoughts. I am being run thin emotionally and financially trying to help her.

And about a week ago I shamefully blew up on her. My boss told me that he can’t afford for me to keep taking off work and I 100% understand because I can’t afford it either. So I set my sister down and told her that she needs to get a psychiatrist because I can’t keep doing this with her. And quite literally the very next day as I’m getting into my car she comes running out crying that today is the day she might do something to herself and that I need to take her to the hospital immediately before she does.

I got out of my car and I just yelled at her that I can’t do this anymore and that I’m going to lose my job and that she needs to look at the list because I am no longer going to be her chauffeur to the hospital. And then I went to work and while I was there I had family I didn’t even know existed messaging me on Facebook about how horrible I am.

When I got home my sister admitted to reaching out to extended family. And after reading all of my family’s messages I’m genuinely wondering if I am the jerk. A few of the family members thinks I need to get a job that keeps me closer to home so I can help her through this. Is that really what family does?

So, AITA for this?