This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/notdeadyet10 on 2023-09-19 20:42:37.

I (48m) have been with my wife for 6 years. She has a daughter named Elle (16f) that I now consider as my child also. For 2 years now, she has been acting out, as any teenager does.

Since maybe 2 months, she is worse than ever. What bothers me the most is how she treats her mother. She’s calling her the worst names (b*tch, lazy, fat, a bad mom, etc.). The thing I love the most about my wife is her personality and how much of a good and caring mother she is to Elle. She works 2 jobs and works so hard to offer Elle a beautiful life.

Yesterday, my wife and Elle got into a big fight. During the argument, I heard Elle say “the only thing that you know how to do is make my life a fucking nightmare”. I exploded. I always tried to keep the peace in the family and do my best to hear both sides. But now, i couldn’t believe my ears. I cut Elle off and told her “Elle, stop being such an ungrateful brat, I can’t believe that you don’t realise what your mother does every single day for you. She works so hard to offer you the life and the opportunities that you have the chance to have”. After that she told me to stop talking to her because I wasn’t her real dad.

My wife was okay with what I said, and thanked me for defending her, but she also told me that next time i should use a less hurtfull word. AITA for what I said?