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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Accurate-Dragonfly86 on 2023-09-19 22:00:51.

Hello Everyone,

I (15F) have two siblings “Alana” (14F) & “Harry” (12M), Harry has always been the most favoured child by my mother (40F) that has no problem in showing just how much she prefers him.

Harry is a total bully and a little jerk. My mom coddles and enables this behaviour that happens mostly towards Alana. Harry mistreats Alana because she’s much more “quirky”, Alana is also a high-functioning autist and Harry picks on this to continue bullying her. Calling her things like “weirdo” “freak” “stupid” etc. My mom never minds these things and encourages it.

I have tried to speak about this with my dad (43M), he is a doctor, meaning that spends much less time with us in comparasion with my mother who is a housewive. He says he’ll “Look into it” but never does, at least of my knowing. My father is much more understanding but he prefers to remain quiet and in peace than intervene; because it could lead to make our household “unpeaceful”

The problem starts here; Alana and Harry started to argue since she didn’t let him borrow one of her Funko Pops. Alana asked Harry to get out of her room and to please leave her alone. My mom intervened and commanded Alana to let him borrow it and to not be selfish. Idk what happened then but Alana pushed Harry out of her room ans slammed the door in both my mom and Harry faces. Later, my mom didn’t shut her mouth and continued to complain about how bratty Alana was and how she never stopped to throw temper tantrums.

I told my mom that it wasn’t Alana’s fault that she was a bad parent and continued to enable Harry bully her. Since that, my mom has been giving me the silent treatment. My father tells me that I was rude & that I shouldn’t speak to my mother like that.

AITA? I could get that my mom doesn’t understand very well Alana, but she also does not try to understand and comfort her. Was I too harsh?