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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/thelifeofmazie on 2023-09-20 08:08:43.

I need to vent. So the majority of my evening has been spent writing an email to my ex-husband about how I need more money to help offset the costs of having to take my two girls (12 and 15) 100% of the time because he is unable to be there for them and parent them in the way they need. (I left him for many reasons, but primarily because he was incapable of even beginning to split the household and childcare duties with me and I was SO done.) Of course, I have to word my email to him very carefully so as not to trigger any of his issues, even though I’ve been so fucking triggered the whole time I’ve had to single parent these girls!

So my older daughter comes to talk to me in the middle of this and I stop to ask her to once again list exactly what her sexist Honors Chemistry teacher has said to the class so far this semester, so that I can call the school tomorrow and report him. (Among the gems are him saying that Brazilian women are the sexiest, that “spotted dick” doesn’t taste as good as you would think it would given the name of it, and that students in the course need to let him know if they have a single and available mom. This last statement particularly offended my daughter, since she does have a single mom.)

However, once my daughter realized that I really am going to email the school about this a-hole, she got upset with me. She doesn’t want to be outed as the girl whose mom complains about everything, even though I know that deep inside she realizes how effed up her teacher is. (I had to contact the school last year because of the sexism regarding how the athletic Director treats girls’ sports at the school in comparison to boys’ sports.) So even though she doesn’t like the idea of me calling the school, she also acknowledges that the chemistry teacher is so bad that she’s not comfortable even going to him for help with the actual subject matter because he creeps her out so much.

All of this after a day at work, where once again, at a meeting, one of my male colleagues only makes eye contact with the other men on our team, and never seems to be talking to me, or even look like he is at least acknowledging my presence.

I’m so sick of this shit. And this country is going backwards in terms of addressing women’s rights and needs. I am so much more conscious of this raising two teen daughters. I’m just so angry. So tired and so angry. I did a bunch of stuff to fight for women’s rights when I was in college 30 years ago. Who knew that my teen daughters would be facing a society that hasn’t changed very much and in many ways has actually gone backwards! Argh.