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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Inner-Extent3102 on 2023-09-20 10:17:23.

My (28M) background: In the house I grew up in, everyone would eat whatever food my parents made and be thankful for it. I can’t recall anything bad tasting, but even foods I don’t “like” I would just not eat, and never modify them. It’s just the way it’s always been. I can’t even imagine one of my siblings doing it to my parents, or my parents doing it to one another.

Back to my girlfriend (24F): I love her very much, but sometimes she does strange things to food that for whatever reason I can’t explain make me just feel unappreciated.

For instance, I bought protein bars coated in dark chocolate. I shared them with her. Later I saw a bunch of them “naked” in a plastic bag. She’d cut off the coating, and leave the center. She said she doesn’t like the center but the chocolate is tasty. I suggested I’d buy her dark chocolate since this is a waste but she said she likes that specific chocolate, and I could eat the center if I’d like. No, I don’t want to eat just the center, I want to enjoy the entire protein bar… this gives me Cartman and KFC episode vibes.

Another example from today - I made chicken curry. She had it before, and she said she really liked it. Today, I walk in to her washing the cooked chicken bits and rinsing them in water. I was really confused. She started laughing and said “don’t look at me”. I didn’t find it funny, it was quite offensive. It was a waste of food and just disrespect to my cooking. This started an argument which led to her crying.

There have been more examples similar to those which I can’t remember for now.

She has the right to eat her food in any way she wants it, but this doesn’t change the fact that I find it upsetting when she wastes food and messes with my cooking. I asked her how would she feel if I did the same with her cooking, to which she responded with “I’d want you to enjoy the food in the way you like it” (no, not really. She once got upset because I added salt to a dish she made).

So…AITA?