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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/282ph4sevox on 2023-09-20 13:42:20.

I (23) have an ex-boyfriend John (29). I broke up with him 3 years ago. John took the breakup very badly and refused to accept my decision for a long time. Because of that I started NC, which he took even worse.

During NC I studied, moved to the capital and found my dream job (it’s a very unique job connected to my hobby). A year ago John contacted me again, asking if I wanted to meet for a coffee as friends. As it turned out, he wanted get back together. I told him I still feel the same and that I have a boyfriend (one of my colleagues). He was disappointed but accepted it.

John figured out where I work and started going to our place regularly as a customer. I couldn’t do anything about it but after a year I would even say that we have established a somewhat friendly relationship.

John showed great interest in the content of my work. He said that he would like to work in our company, but in a branch that is about 12 miles away so that we don’t work together. A few weeks ago he asked me if my boyfriend would mind if we all happened to work together (in our team of 10 people) and I said probably yes, but it would definitely make ME uncomfortable.

Yesterday, my boss came to me asking if I don’t know John by any chance and if he isn’t my ex-boyfriend, whom I once told him about. It turned out that John applied to our branch. The boss asked me if I wanted to work with him and I said no; but that I will refer him to a branch 12 miles away. The boss said that he has an interview with him tomorrow and that if he likes him, he will recommend him elsewhere, but that he will definitely not work in our team.

I asked John why he wanted to work at our branch even though I told him it would make me uncomfortable. He replied that he thought I wasn’t serious about that and that he has finally gotten over our breakup and that he plans to move to a new apartment located 15 minutes from our branch (he wants to live super close to me and my boyfriend). He doesn’t want to commute to the other branch and he thought that I’ll be fine with his decision. Well I am not and now he thinks I am an asshole for making him commute further and potentially destroying his chances to get this job.

Not only that but more people (including my boyfriend) are kinda on his side and think I shouldn’t mind working with him if we both moved on.

AITA?