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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/anonymous_guava on 2023-09-20 10:17:24.

My bf and I are way past the honeymoon phase and now I’m just upset at why this guy who has so much potential just sucks. He’s a handsome and really talented guy, but he is stubborn, selfish and doesn’t take care of himself. When I met him he dressed well and was in decent shape. Now it’s not so much the case.

Recently I’ve just not been as attracted to him, so being motivated during sex is hard. Beyond just the physical aspect (and I wish it was just that), he also does almost no mental foreplay other than the rare times, and instead is doing some sort of “offplay” that turns me off further most of the time. He barely asks about me, barely seems interested in my day and barely remembers things that I’ve told him, which other people will ask about. He regularly calls me boring (apparently he’s just joking, but idk how it’s ever funny), complain about random things (unrelated to me), or joke about something about my appearance. He makes me feel uncool and unsexy and then I basically don’t want to have sex with him at all. Later he’ll complain why I never initiate, that I’m passive and I’m not enthusiastic enough when giving him a blowjob. I’ll tell him he makes me feel unsexy, and he’ll say he was just joking and that I’m beautiful and sexy. I’ll say he didn’t even ask how ___ went and he’ll say he didn’t think it was important. I’ll ask him if he cares and he’ll say of course he does. Wtf is wrong with him, it’s like he doesn’t know how to be in a relationship or treat a woman?! Do any men anymore?!

For the cherry on the cake, he recently started asking if I’m open to trying anal. Fine you asked, but I said no, and he still keeps insisting. He said I won’t know until I try, to which I say I know my body and I know I won’t. I had “let” an ex put a finger in once, and I hated it. He says that it will be different with him. He also says I just need to relax and change my mindset, that if I think I won’t like it, I won’t. I tell him he’s being selfish for his pleasure and not thinking of my comfort, he says I might actually like it. I tell him why don’t we see if you like it, and he says I might not do it properly (wtf?!). He won’t let this go and has even become pouty over it.

Just when I think I’ve found a decent man, turns out the same. I’m so sick of these man-children.