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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/dramamagnetwishnot on 2023-09-20 19:51:23.

For some quick context. I (15f soon to be 16f) dont have much contact w my extended family. I was never close due to me being the only child my age in the family. So during family gatherings like Christmas and birthdays im forgotten a lot but ive gotten used to it.

So my birthday is coming up and as a lot if people know 16 is usually a really big milestone in someones life. Im not from the US so im not getting a sweet16 obviously. But i would still love to have my whole family there. So last week my aunt (42f) brought up how i am planning on having cake at my house for my birthday.

(i wont bore you with details but) the conversation somehow went from my birthday to how her daughter (7f) was so excited especially for the cake. She said how she was going to make a bunch of fall related treats such as a bunch of orange flavoured food. My aunt knows that i am allergic to oranges and i get sick when i smell them or get dizzy. I reminded her of this and she brushes it off saying how i dont have to eat them and how it shouldn’t affect me much. She then went on to bring up how her daughter loved to blow out candles and that she can’t wait to get photos. I assured her my parents will get enough pictures of me blowing MY candles out. She then corrected me saying that she can just relight them for her daughter to blow out anyway.

Thats when i told her that its my birthday and that not everything revolves around her daughter and how she can easily have her own cake at her own house with HER own candles. I then walked out but i keeo getting messages from my family and cousins how i was rude and it was unnecessary to day what i said to my aunt. whick note i know i blew up on her fast but i have extremely short temper and i have put up with thus woman for too long.so AITA? if necessary i will give an update.