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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/GasGlittering640 on 2023-09-21 08:45:29.

My deadbeat was out of my life by the time I (21M) was 1. My mom married my dad when I was 18 months old and he adopted me. Apparently deadbeat married a few years ago and adopted his wife’s daughter and then he dropped dead earlier this year. The widow was told about me and she decided I would become her daughter’s big brother and basically act as though my deadbeat was my dad in any kind of way. She went through a whole ordeal to find me and she started reaching out to me on Facebook. When I blocked her there she found another social media platform and blocked me there as well. Then she tried to get my mom to talk to me and then my younger siblings, and most of my siblings are minors. One of my siblings has an art page where they post stuff and they had to close that because she was trying to access them there and yes, they are a minor.

I have zero interest or desire to meet this child or this woman. I’m sad for a kid who lost the only dad they knew and as someone who was chosen and adopted by my dad and would be inconsolable if I lost him, this child and I have no reason to have contact. This woman will not stop saying I need to have a relationship with her child though.

I ended up unblocking her and sent a message back that if she did not stop I would consult with an attorney and have a cease and desist sent to her and that I will escalate things more if she does not leave me alone.

She responded back that I should have some compassion for her daughter and threatening her with legal action is wrong given their recent loss.

AITA?