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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Xerus01 on 2023-09-21 12:05:03.

Hello,

I come from an Arab predominantly Muslim country (Algeria) and I started dating someone from a western country. I’m atheist and I don’t care about religion and traditions, however I care about my family and my country.

I have a YouTube channel that’s doing well and I’m planning to face reveal once it reaches 100k subs which will be in a month or so.

Today my girlfriend wanted me to share on my story where I have family and friends a picture of us kissing. I don’t want to do that because it will reach my close family and if I go public with my channel that’s like a scandal in my country. There are 0 pictures of any celebrity publicly displaying any affection, Ryad Mahrez once made a controversy on social media with pictures of him and his girlfriend kissing.

Nobody knows that I’m atheist, that I drink alcohol or that I have a girlfriend. My mom is a religious person and if she finds out I have a girlfriend it means that I’m having sex outside of marriage which means I’m going to burn in hell. I was religious for 19 years and I know exactly what it means to her. That would break her heart and she will have a lot of sleepless nights. But my girlfriend gave me an ultimatum and compared it to prince Harry, how can I explain to her that it’s not the same thing? The culture is widely different. She seems very hurt by this fact and to me that’s a huge compromise. I love her but at the same time I don’t want to leave everything behind. Am I the asshole in this situation ?