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The original was posted on /r/transeducate by /u/TheHomoAlpaca on 2023-05-20 09:06:54.

This question has probably been asked a lot, but all the scenarios don’t really align with what I kind went through. My partner says that anyone can have it, but I just wanted to double check.

I’ve always been cis and never questioned my gender, pronouns sure, but not my gender. I stopped dressing feminine early on cause kids dresses are itchy and uncomfortable, eventually I just started to dress and look more masculine because I didn’t think I was feminine enough to be able to wear that stuff. I felt like I wasn’t allowed because of the way my body was; more body hair than others, wider shoulders, and even some facial hair.

People would mistake me for a boy and at the time it made me smile, but looking back at it, it just proved my point; that I was too masculine looking to be feminine. During this time I had really bad body insecurity, I wanted to be more pretty and more feminine but felt like I was just stuck with what I got and had to suck it up. It was the luck of the draw when it comes to genetics anyways. I grew envious of more femme presenting people, even ones who had the same features as me, but they just looked more… feminine.

I tried to branch out once and got called cursed when I wore a dress, after that I decided to not wear anything like that again. I only gain confidence to try and wear that stuff after I met my partner and now I feel more secure and comfortable with my body.

I’ve listened to trans femme stories and kinda resonated with them, but I didn’t really say anything cause it might’ve been disrespectful.