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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/twiggy_panda_712 on 2023-09-22 17:52:18.

My close male friend confessed his feelings for me, and I don’t feel the same. I am openly lesbian and he knew this from the start of our friendship. So even though he knew he wouldn’t have a chance, he still told me how he felt. I responded in a very gentle and nice way while still being honest and I don’t feel the same and never will. This person is a really good friend and has accepted me and supported me in ways others haven’t (I’m auDHD so I’m kind of a lot to handle and get along with). I don’t want to stop being friends with him. I value our friendship and want to continue being friends, but this will absolutely change things. I don’t want things to be awkward, but I know they will be. Perhaps he’d been dropping hints for a while that he liked me romantically, but my autistic ass didn’t pick up on any of these cues. Regardless, I would like to continue being friends with him, I just don’t know how to move forward after this. Do I act like nothing is changed? Do I set new boundaries? Idk what to do:(

Edit: just some things I wanted to add. We have a long distance friendship bc I graduated college and moved back home, so we already don’t see each other. Also, I told him I wasn’t upset that he told me but I am. He knew I was gay and still chose to share his feelings and make things awkward. This has also happened to him before. He had a close female friend and confessed his feelings for her to which she responded that she was a lesbian and didn’t feel the same. They stopped being friends after that. He actually told me this early in our friendship so I made it very clear I was gay so he wouldn’t develop feelings. Yet here we are anyway.