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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Spare_Violinist2272 on 2023-09-23 00:51:39.

Basically the title. Me abd my boyfriend of 4 years were talking about something really boring today, so please bare with the boring story to follow. However, it’s now ended up with me sleeping in the spare room as I’m so confused with how I feel.

I was talking about a friend of my friend and how she apparently used to be a bully.

My boyfriend (t) then said this person couldn’t be a bully she’s just a b*tch. I then replied saying that can be how girls bully. T then foot annoyed and said “alright, why are you always disagreeing with me?”

I was then quiet as we had to walk around a supermarket but then when we left I said “I was disagreeing with you disagreeing with me, that doesn’t mean I’m always disagreeing with you” in (what I thought) was a relatively calm tone. He then got annoyed saying that we’d only been around each other for two days and we were already arguing all the time.

I’m so confused and at a loss, I think I now just stand up for myself more. I’ll admit I do react with a tone when I’m spoken to with a tone but I think I’m always respectful. I feel like my boyfriend is making me feel bad for standing up for myself by trying to make me feel like it’s just me being argumentative.

Sorry for the rant, has anyone had this before? Any idea how to deal with it? I think I should be ok to say how I feel without feeling like I’m the one ruining the relationship.

I’m also happy to be told I’m in the wrong by anyone here, so please feel free to provide me with constructive criticism.

Thanks all x