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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Kooky-Raisin7529 on 2023-09-22 23:23:10.

I am a SAHM, we currently have two children, and things have been pretty good, but recently husband has been making requests to make larger purchases. We have always operated on two yes, and one no for all major purchases.

My husband feels I am controlling how he spends his money. I have explained many times that I do not feel it is wise to spend needlessly when that money can go towards our kids.

His arguments for what he wants always boil down to a want, not a need. Granted, in his eyes, it is a need because he wants it.

He wanted to buy a new car, and I said no cause I see no point in adding a car payment when our current cars are fine and most importantly they are paid off.

He tried to play it off as I was controlling and did not understand how hard he worked. Yet, I am the one who cooks, cleans, does the food shopping, takes the kids to the doctor, handles play dates, etc…

Granted, he has never been a fan of two yes, and one no. Because someone will always pull the short straw. Especially in his case because many of the things he wants he has admitted are not necessary.

Am I being unreasonable for putting our kids first?