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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/UKBookEditor on 2023-09-22 22:38:36.

Basically, we’re getting married and have said that we want no children – kids of friends, kids of family, kids of relations, etc. – and the amount of backlash we have received, despite us paying for the wedding, is ridiculous.

My brother has two (LOUD) children and has never been favourable of our relationship but is absolutely adamant that his kids should be at the wedding. We have said, over and over again, that anyone (despite relation) who is under the age of 21 cannot attend the ceremony or, as it were the ‘big day’. However, we are now receiving an influx of messages – 18 months before the wedding – from folk who can’t sort childcare, etc.

My partner and I don’t want children, aren’t big fans and, frankly, don’t want to waste money on extra, tiny guests but our families don’t get it.

Am I/are we the asshole?

EDIT: We’re both 30 and most of our friend, bar a few don’t have and will not be having children.