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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ElectionClassic8008 on 2023-09-23 04:26:19.

So, a bit of background: I (28F) have been a proud carnivore my whole life. Everyone close to me knows it. Well, last week was my birthday and my friends decided to throw me a surprise party. Super sweet, right?

Here’s where it gets sticky. I found out about the surprise a few days in advance (my GF (27F) accidentally let it slip). I snooped for more info and discovered that they decided to make it a fully vegan BBQ to accommodate one new friend (23M) who is vegan. I was a little annoyed because I felt like my birthday was being co-opted for his dietary choices.

I decided to take matters into my own hands and told my GF I insist on a meaty BBQ feast for the party. On the day, everyone was surprised (especially me, pretending not to know) but the vegan friend called out the spread and was visibly upset. I told him it was my party and I wanted to eat what I love. A huge argument ensued.

Now, half of my friends think I was an asshole for not respecting the vegan choice for one day and the other half are on my side saying it’s my day and I should have what I want. AITA?