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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Hopeful_Corner9116 on 2023-09-23 09:04:55.

Recently we were staying at my MILs house for the weekend. My BIL (husband’s brother) and SIL visited one night and left after we went to bed. They then sent a text that “we” were pulling out and “we” hit your car and “we” will pay. My car has a pretty bad scrape on the side.

The thing is that I know my SIL was drinking and I get the feeling she had been driving. But when I’m trying to figure out what happened it’s always “we”. So I keep trying to find ways to ask without straight up saying it, and eventually I say “who was driving?” and I get the response “why?”. Like they are purposely hiding it.

Here’s the thing, my SIL and I don’t get along at all. We’re as polar opposites as anyone can be. I’m a hard worker, she’s a self professed lay-about. My BIL makes all the money in their house and she spends it all while doing absolutely nothing. And she has money coming in from her parents as well.

The reason I want to know is because I think it’s important that if she was driving it should be her personal money that pays for it not my BIL’s. I don’t think she’s ever had to face the consequences of her own actions before. I also know she was drinking and think that if this was a drunk driving incident we should know. She could really harm someone with that behavior.

My husband and I got onto a fight about it now because he says why does it matter? He doesn’t understand why I think it’s important. Even when I said we should make an official report and go through insurance he said he doesn’t want HER to get in trouble not them so he knows the truth too. Now we’re fighting about it.

AITA