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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Downtown-Solution123 on 2023-07-04 11:20:46+00:00.

My dad (Peter, 61M) has a sister (Lola, 55F) who is trying to contact me (34F) after 10 years of no contact. She is asking to go for lunch and meet up and build a relationship.

Peter has told me that Lola is getting older and she is trying to reconnect, that she has told him that she would like to have a relationship again with her niece and nephews.

We have been on no speaking terms for 10 years because Lola stole a lot of money from my parents and betrayed Peters trust. Lola and her husband then declared themselves bankrupt and refused to pay the money. They went to court and it was painful. I believe Lola has been paying slowly but the whole situation made my parents fight a lot and go through a lot of stress (specially Peter, who was heartbroken and still to this day is sad about it).

I also have bad memories about some stuff Lola did when my grandma (her mom) was dying when I was younger. I remember Lola never went to see her in the hospital (my mum did), and even said in front of us that she wished my gran died. Lola made my gran keep doing her house chores while she was really ill.

Lola also used to tell my parents what I searched on the computer when I went to spend the day at their house. They phoned Peter to gossip to them about private phonecalls I had with friends on my phone (Lola would snoop around).

My brother is telling me that I should meet up with Lola and be the better person and that forgiving is key. ATM I am happy and I have not missed Lola and I have never felt sad about not having her around in my life honestly. It may sound selfish but I don’t think she has nothing positive to bring to my life.

WIBTA if I told Lola that I don’t want to hang around?