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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Twstdktty on 2023-07-04 16:58:42+00:00.

I (24F) have been dating this guy (30M) for a few months now. He recently got relocated to another state for work (temporary but we don’t know exactly how long). I flew down there on Saturday to visit him for the week.

We were having an amazing time until Sunday night about midnight I got woken up by the sound of the TV getting knocked over. I sat up and looked around and I see him standing in the corner of the room facing the wall. Obviously super creepy to wake up to and then I realize what he’s doing, he’s standing by the desk and peeing in my suitcase. I start yelling at him but he’s totally incoherent and has no idea what’s going on.

After I turn the lights on and he sorta snaps out of it I’m asking him why on earth he did that and he says he has no idea. I go out to the kitchen and low and behold he’s drank almost the entire bottle of vodka we bought at the store that day. Even after I found the bottle he denied being drunk.

For context, I do not drink. My last serious boyfriend was an alcoholic and living with him was extremely difficult for me. My current boyfriend knows this and up until now has always been very respectful and kept his drinking to a reasonable level.

He insisted on taking the clothes down to the laundry building right then, and I fell back asleep waiting for him. When I woke up in the morning he was asleep face down on the couch. I woke him up and told him I was really upset by what happened last night and wanted to talk about it. He dismissed me, said he was busy relaxing and didn’t want to be bothered. Several more times I asked him to please sit up and talk to me about this and he refused, wouldn’t even lift his head to make eye contact. Finally I started packing my stuff in a backpack (my suitcase is ruined) and I told him his choices were, continue laying on the couch, or get up and talk to me otherwise I was going home. He ignored me. As I was putting my shoes on he finally sat up and asked if I was for real, I said yes and that I didn’t want to do this again.

He didn’t try to stop me, so I took my stuff and walked to a Starbucks a couple blocks away. I called my best friend and my mom, then took an Uber to the airport and got on the next flight home. After I was gone for about 20 minutes he texted me and asked what was going on and I said I was going home, his response was “alright then”

Now he’s saying he was too drunk and doesn’t remember anything from the morning and it was unfair of me to leave before he sobered up. I think what I did was justified because he knew that heavy drinking was not something I was comfortable with, and not only did he sneak and do it behind me back, he continued to try and lie about it after he got caught.