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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/CastrowuzRight on 2023-09-23 22:03:19.

So I’m back, I know everyone hates me but I was asked for an update so here we are. I just wanna say everyone was right. I was an asshole. I was being a pushover. I was being a shit boyfriend and partner. I did prioritize Jess over my girlfriends feelings and that was so shitty of me.

Me and my girlfriend are currently on a break. I tried to apologize to her and make sure she understood that I knew how wrong I was. I told her that I was sorry for letting Jess disrespect her and be catty and that I’d never let that happen again. My girlfriend said that Jess has been like this to her since we started dating and said that I’ve just been either ignoring it or unable to see it. Through a tearful back and forth my girlfriend told me that she wouldn’t let herself feel second to Jess. She said that when I figure out what’s going on there Jess and I, then talk to her but until then she wants to get some distance from our relationship.

So that evening I was heartbroken, but I wanted to still make it clear to Jess that she would not be disrespectful to my girlfriend if we got back together and that she owes her an apology no matter what. I thought it would be better to have this as a face to face conversation as there’s a lot of ambiguity over text so I went to her place. XShe apologized to me and said she would call my ex to apologize to her.

I got home in the morning I just spent a lot of time reflecting on the bad decisions I had made and how much I hurt my girlfriend and how right everyone who said I was being a shitty boyfriend was.

So I will admit, I fucked up. I didn’t protect the person I was supposed to protect. I was too blind to see Jess being catty and mean to her. If she takes me back that won’t ever happen again.