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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DiligentComposer3047 on 2023-09-24 10:34:23.

Hi All.

I am mixed race (white mother, black father) while my husband is white. My daughter “Katie” (16) looks a lot like me, but her skin and hair are much lighter and she is usually assumed to be white, whereas I’m obviously mixed. We live in a mostly white area which is quite right wing, though not openly racist.

Something happened at school last week and I was called in. There’s a girl at the school who moved from another country. Katie and several other girls filmed themselves imitating her language/accent, throwing her food on the floor and calling her a “disgusting foreign c*nt”.

When the teachers sat me down and showed me what she did I was enraged. This is being recorded as a racist incident. While this is the right thing to do, I’m concerned what impact this would have on her future. She’s not sure what she wants to do next, but she has high grades across the board so has a lot of options. If this incident stays on file it could affect her chances of getting into somewhere good.

I pointed out that both me and Katie are mixed race, and while that doesn’t mean she can’t be racist, I’ve taught her a lot about the things I experienced when I was growing up and why any kind of racism is wrong. However, the teachers didn’t accept this, and said the fact that Katie is mixed doesn’t change the fact she behaved in a racist way.

Katie has been put in isolation at school, and we’ve taken away all electronics besides her laptop for school work.

My husband doesn’t think it was right to use Katie being mixed race as an excuse for her. It wasn’t an excuse at all. She deserves to be punished. I was just adding some context to explain that she is obviously not a racist person despite what she did.