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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ValuableBid6600 on 2023-09-24 11:50:13.

My wife and I have decided to see and speak to her parents far less than we did before. It’s not entirely us going no contact but low contact for sure. The reason for this is how they disrespect me and my wife, but mostly me. The whole disrespect thing started when we were expecting our child together. My wife’s parents made a comment that they hoped we would be kinder to our child than my parents were to me when they named me. I have seen my name come up on this sub a few times and I know it’s controversial (Sky) especially for guys and for a full name. In response to her parents comment, my wife told them they should learn to keep their unrequested opinions to themselves and that they should be less disrespectful of my parents and us.

Her parents looked unhappy when my wife shut them down. But it was not the last comment they made. And then I remembered back when I first met them, and my wife introduced us, and they called me Skyler instead of Sky, and made a face when I corrected them and said my name was just Sky.

The comments throughout my wife’s pregnancy reached a point where we decided low contact was the way to go. The ideal being only some contact with my wife.

It has been a few months like this and then my ILs told me there was an emergency and needed my help. I called to ask what the emergency was and it was basically to do some things around the house because my wife’s father was struggling with back and leg issues and couldn’t do any heavy lifting, etc. They told me I was the only person they knew who could do it and they needed help. I was pissed that they had claimed an “emergency” when really it was just them not wanting to pay someone. So I told them I do not help people who disrespect me and hung up the phone.

They sent texts to my phone and later to my wife’s phone saying I was behaving in a childish manner and I should have more respect for my wife’s parents and my child’s grandparents. I didn’t reply but I wonder if I should have said less when I said no to helping them. Or if I should have hung up and ignored them when I realized it was not a true emergency.

AITA?