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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Unusual-Jaguar8776 on 2023-09-24 14:49:34.

Context I’m(23f) married , both of us have bipolar disorder and/or very bad mental health issues, and other issues are stuff that I will not bring up. So here is my list

1. As much as I would love to have kids with my husband I know for a fact my body will never be able to. And yes I know adoption is possible but not in our case.
2. Our world is dying. I see everyone who have kids and I smile for them but I learned from a very young age that our world is dying. I don’t want to risk messing up my children with the thoughts that I’ve had my entire upbringing
3. I’ve had an abortion and have almost died from being anemic from it
4. I have many other undiagnosed medical conditions that A. I don’t want to pass down and B. I could die from if having a child.
5. I grew up with a lot of trauma from my mother and my father physically and mentally abandoning me and even if my husband was the best dad in the world, I know I would have at least 15+ years of childhood trauma that i would have to work through before I even considered being a good mom.
6. Child care costs. Along with housing…. And everything else.
7. I have a beautiful dog and 2 kitties that I love and would absolutely die for.

I’m absolutely heart broken that I cannot have children but I’ve known this for at least 10 years now. Even before I had my first period. However I am not hating on whoever does change children of their own.