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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Belle0910 on 2023-09-24 17:21:47.


I 24 female, did a last minute favour for friend of mine for his mums wedding,little bit of back story for you.

I love doing photography I always have and I always will. while I was out with my friends I was unexpectedly called by my brother in law, I don’t usually get a call from him so when I saw he was calling I answered and asked if everything was okay… he had explained the situation about the previous photographer dropping out last minute at 6pm on the NIGHT BEFORE THE WEDDING! and asked me to help and I would be paid by a certain date.

I agreed and travelled 4 hours with my camera and laptop up to this wedding venue to take photos for the bride and groom.

Until today I found out I’m not being paid till much later in the month… if not next month, so I sat and had thought about and came to the conclusion that I wouldn’t send any photos

I then explained this to my friend and he was unaware of a date being set for payment and only the amount, until I’d showed him that part of the conversation we had between each other.

So now I’ve been called an as*hole for refusing to send any photos over until payment has been made in full by given date but everyone’s already been using my photos quite happily for profile pictures and cover photos from the few I had already sent over, not to mention I’d already been hounded by people for said photos as they needed them asap? I feel the whole situation is about to put a divide between me and my friend when I don’t want it too but am I the Ahole for refusing to send anymore photos until payment has been made or am I over reacting?..

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    NAH. But what you should do is just send the photos, but make it clear you find that payment important, and then just trust your friend. If they violate the trust, then distance yourself.

    Maybe ask them for a new payment date. Ask them why they didn’t meet the original deadline. Don’t let it go unspoken.

    And in the future don’t mix friends with business. Either give your photo services away, or sell them to strangers and acquaintances.