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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/GirlMomOnly on 2023-09-25 14:32:59.

Am I the asshole. My husband is about to have his 39th birthday and as his gift this year I decided to ask if he would like me to pay to get our daughters name tattooed on him. Here’s why. He currently has 2 kids(boys) from his previous marriage. Ages 13 and 10. We just had our daughter who is now 8 months old. He already has a tattoo on his chest for his first born and nothing for his second son. I offered to pay to have our daughters name added to his body, which he agreed to as he liked the idea. But his sister made a comment that if I’m paying for my daughter’s, then I should pay for his son’s too. I don’t feel like it’s my responsibility to pay for him to add his child from a previous marriage/relationship. If he wants to add it, he can. I have nothing against that. But I do not wish to pay for a separate tattoo for a child that I did not birth. It should be my right to pay for what I want and I do not want to be made out to be the bad guy because I’m only paying for my own flesh and blood daughter.