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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Alwaysfiending1 on 2023-09-25 20:15:54.

I went out of town a couple hours away to help a friend move and hang out for the night because it was his last weekend in the same state. When I got back the next morning my girlfriend and I were talking about our days and she said she went out to a bar for drinks with a male friend that had just got out of a relationship. She said it was basically him venting to her about his ex girlfriend who had been cheating on him. It caught me off guard and made me upset that she would go out with another guy and not mention it to me beforehand. I told her I’d prefer she didn’t go out with another guy for drinks, especially if I was out of town. She said that she didn’t think I would think anything of it and didn’t say anything for about 30 minutes after I told her I’d prefer she didn’t go out with another guy for drinks by herself because she was scared I was mad at her. Her reaction and the whole situation made me feel uncomfortable and I’m wondering am I being possessive? We’ve been dating for 11 months and nothing like this has happened before. She has been friends with the guy for about 6-7 years and says that she has never seen him as anything but a friend and before we were dating she said she would go out with him by herself all the time. Am I being an asshole for saying I don’t want her to go out for drinks with a male friend by herself?

My response after reading comments. After reading responses I am aware I reacted poorly and will apologize. We have never had a disagreement before this and I guess the situation made me feel insecure.

Scared is the the wrong word for why she didn’t say much when I said that to her. I adore her and I have never said anything like this before so I think the reason she didn’t say much is because it caught her off guard.