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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/PeriPapershop on 2023-09-25 21:07:01.

I’m not sure what inspired it, but something must have because he doesn’t read books very often.

He’s always had an understanding of feminism that’s way above average for a cis white dude, but there are a couple of little things that he has given me some push-back on. Mainly over the broad-brush concept of “identity politics” and how they’re “just a distraction” from the more pressing issues of class, unprecedented economic inequality, and the looming threat of ecological collapse.

He woke me up last night to tell me what he’d learned and apologized for not understanding, or wanting to understand where I’d been coming from in our discussions. He said Audre Lorde in particular pointed out several typical white-dude things that he thinks or does, that up to now he used to think were innocuous. He’s still talking about it, asking how many of these things apply to my experience (all of them, honey) and asking what other books I think he should read. (Right now I think he might be making a reddit post about it somewhere… he keeps asking me what I think are the simplest versions of feminist vocab words, the ELI5 version.)

I’m kind of blown away. I wasn’t home for most of the weekend but whenever I saw him he pretended to be playing Starfield. That was just a cover. He literally read all weekend. The only other thing he did was make dinner on Saturday.

I’m so curious what got him started, but I’m going to try to play it cool and let it unfold organically.