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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/romanciere1 on 2023-09-26 17:27:29.

My sister (27F) has started dating her new boyfriend (age relevant) a couple months ago. Historically, her relationships are short-lasting and not very serious. But she speaks of her current boyfriend differently. In the couple months of their relationship, things have become serious. They are living together and have spoken about marriage and are in-love.

So naturally, I ensured space for him at my upcoming wedding wanting to support her relationship and make them comfortable. The wedding is small and casual; close friends and family only. Invites have yet to formally go out.

Yesterday, when on the phone with my sister, she revealed that her boyfriend is 65-years-old.

I was surprised. Her boyfriend, afterall, is older than our dad, and her boyfriend’s children are older than my sister. Her boyfriend even has an infant granddaughter.

I refrained from judgement as my sister has a history of forsaking those who do (fair enough). For example, my parents and family (who will be attending the wedding) have been nearly cut from my sister’s life as she often feels they judge her and disapprove of her life choices.

Needless to say, she has not revealed the age of her boyfriend to my parents and family, and they will meet him for the first time at my wedding. I imagine my family will be disapproving and upset; likely completely spoiling the mood of the wedding as my parents, mom in particular, is very sensitive and reactive.

So now I’m in a bit of a dilemma. Do I want my wedding to be a source of inevitable drama? Should I not invite my sister’s boyfriend to avoid this; risking my sister’s upset? Or do I accept what will be will be?