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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/marstheelf on 2023-09-26 17:39:28.

We see a lot of posts about men being lonely but women can be lonely too. In fact, we are expected to be the more “social creatures” and I feel that there is a level of shame that comes with loneliness when you don’t have friends.

I’m a girls girl. Women typically don’t invalidate your feelings or shame you for liking girly things, they’re not secretly trying to get into your pants. Female friendships are just refreshing.

The problem is finding them. I moved away from my home state nearly 7 years ago and have yet to make any lasting female friendships like the ones I had back home.

I’m 31 and do not have the luxury of being in school. Work keeps me busy so I don’t have a whole lot of free time to get deep into hobbies outside of the home. It’s remote work so coworkers aren’t even an option. I’m childfree and most people my age are having families. And I live in North Texas where there are a lot of conservative women that just don’t share my values as a feminist woman. I’ve met a few on a bumble bff app but they ended up either being toxic or always invited their boyfriends along. I thought about looking into feminist meetups groups, but couldn’t find such a thing in my area.

I guess what I wanted to discuss is how it is possible to meet other like minded women in a conservative state, or what things I could change that would make me more inclined to make female friends. We live in hard times and not having “your people” yet makes it all the more isolating.