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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Soft_Reference_6490 on 2023-09-26 17:51:04.

I seen another post in here, which I know we’re all used to about another man acting like a jerk and the (of course) initial comments of why don’t you leave.

THANK YOU because going further in the comments I seen the responsesof people finally saying it. IT’S HARD TO LEAVE. We as women end up in situations like this and then when we want to get out not only have we potentially been psychologically beat down for years, we’re so tired. We’re programed to just deal with these things. Some of us have little to no remaining self esteem.

Many of these people have children and “just leave” is infintesimally harder with children. One of the biggest factors in the inability to just leave is money. The world is fucking hard and expensive and not getting any less so. The US is a complete shit show currently.

I’m not saying this from nothing. I’m in the situation. I’ve been thinking I might want to get out for over a year now. I’ve posted on reddit so many times. I had people tell me they would soon hate to say I told you so when the man unalives me. Then he starts to be nice and helpful. Goes to therapy and back on his meds after years. And a tiny part of me hopes again. And a bigger part of me says too little too late I just want to be done but I’m still not brave and I’m still so confused.

I haven’t left. I start to get closer. I get more comfortable with the idea. Then something happens. I’m not gone because I’m on social security and I can’t even afford my bills currently.

Thank you. For reminding people it’s so much more than just leave.