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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/jpepp97 on 2023-09-27 02:44:38.

Sorry I wrote a lot, this probably wasn’t that big of a deal it just really shook me.

Yesterday I was on my way to the grocery store when I motioned for a pedestrian to cross at a stop sign. He started to go, then stopped directly in front of my car and motioned to me to roll my window down, repeatedly saying “excuse me, excuse me”. I thought he might be looking for directions or something, idk. He went to the passenger side window and said “I’m sorry to bother you, I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re absolutely beautiful.” I said oh thanks and laughed uncomfortably, thinking that was it. Of course it wasn’t.

He then said “Yeah I just wanted to tell you that you’re really beautiful & I hope you have a good rest of your day. What’s your name?” and extended his hand. I reflexively went to shake it and said my name. I started to say “I hope you have a nice rest of your day too” when he cut me off and said “can I be your man?”

At this point he was still holding my hand and would not let go. So I just awkwardly held up my left hand and said “sorry, I’m married”. At this point he got more aggressive. “What kind of a ring is that? I could get you a better ring. Where’s your husband right now? I bet he doesn’t treat you right. I’d treat you like you deserve to be treated” etc etc. All while holding my hand tighter and tighter while I tried to pull it back.

He then said “Well could you at least lend me a dollar?” (yep there it is). I told him that I don’t carry cash and he said oh let’s ask your husband. I said “No?? He’s at work.” And finally yanked my hand back hard enough from him. He immediately started leaning on his arms into my window. “Let’s test him. Let’s see how good of a guy he is. You want me to test him for you? I know some guys, they can test him. I bet he’s cheating on you. I bet he’s doing it right now. Come on, let’s go find your husband.”

At this point there were cars backed up behind me. I got louder and said “No I’m not doing that. No my husband is fine. We’re not calling him. I’m leaving.” He kept talking over me so I just started pulling forward and saying goodbye over and over. He tried to keep his arms in my car but gave up.

I’m just so shook bc 90% of that interaction I was thinking do I have to just start driving with this dude holding onto me? If he gets hurt would I be at fault? And god forbid what would he have done if there weren’t other cars around to watch?? I don’t get where men get the fucking audacity like what the hell is that?? In hindsight I should have just rolled the window up but I wasn’t thinking straight.

TL;DR I rolled down my window for a guy at an intersection and he tried to get me to help him shake down my husband for money.