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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Apprehensive_Sir668 on 2023-09-27 20:11:43.

My sister had a baby, I was super happy for her obviously, and a couple weeks after baby was born she comes to me asking if I can help pay for the babies stuff (Food, diapers, hygiene products) and obv she just had a baby & she’s my sister so I help her no questions asked. A detail i can’t leave out is that My sister(26) is wealthy. Not like a millionaire But she has a lot of money to spend and a lot of money saved. I(24), am poor, not homeless, but Most goes to bills, rent, I’m living in a trashy apartment, two jobs, you get it.

So I’m buying her whatever she needs for the kid, when she needs more I get more, even taking care of her kid whenever she or her husband can’t, and I really didn’t have a problem with it. That was until a family get together, and she’s showing off her babies expensive room (canopy crib, decked out in decorations and toys all that stuff) and once again, didn’t pay much attention to it. Unfortunately I got a little alcohol in my system and asked about it. “ Hey why am I paying for baby essentials while your buying all this for her? “, something like that, and she immediately gets defensive, saying stuff how she doesn’t want her kid to have a boring “babyhood”. I say the same thing again, “ Totally get it, but if you have money for all this technically unimportant stuff(the extreme amount of decorations) why am I paying for all this stuff “, and we go back n fourth. I find the fact that she’s buying all of this unnecessary stuff for a baby while I’m stuck paying for things the kid actually needs, of course I want the kid to have toys, but everything else?

She leaves and everyones looking at me like I grew another head. I get whispers, nasty looks, my mother saying I’m horrible for not wanting to help my sister(which isn’t what I even said in our argument) and I just go. Of course we get over it not even 2 days later, I go back to buying stuff, watching her kid. Another thing, I have to take days off work for her kid, so not only am I not getting money from my jobs, I’m not getting any type of money from her. So because of that, I have to work 2x more then what I did before, and rents close.

I’m watching her kid, she gets home, kids asleep. I say “ I can’t do this anymore, I’m stressed out with my jobs and rent is due soon, unless you can pay me some money back for all this, I can’t do it. “ and bam, shit storm. I don’t wanna get specific but the whole thing ends with her saying if i don’t care about her kid i can leave, I love her lil baby, but I can’t get evicted, so I left. It didn’t even take 24hrs for me to get multiple texts, calls, all calling me names, saying I’m a horrible sister. a week later and I’m still getting sarcastic and rude messages from my sister. I’m stressed out, and my brains in scrambles. Am I the asshole for all this?