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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitapetrules on 2023-09-27 20:13:34.

My husband and I have 2 daughters that have pets. Mila (20) adopted a puppy 3 years ago and Lea (16) adopted a cat last year.

Before they were able to adopt their pets, they both had to get a job and do research on what is required to take care of their pets. We are also only willing to pay $30 per month for the dog and $20 for the cat. We will also match what they put into an emergency account for the pets or pay for pet insurance up to $75 a month. Everything else is on them. They both had to sign a “contract” saying that they are responsible for any damage their pets caused, they are responsible for making sure it has food and water and gets enough exercise, as well as cleaning up after their pets. It says that if they can’t meet these standards their pets will be rehomed.

Mila’s dog, Ollie, has a very comfortable life. He has a cabinet full of toys, nicer kibble and wet food, and even outfits. Mila pays a little over $250 a month between Ollie’s food, toys, treats, wardrobe, pet insurance, and emergency fund. She also pays another $200 a month for him to have a dog walker.

Lea’s cat, Sunny, eats a more basic food and treats, doesn’t have pet insurance, and Lea only puts $15 a month aside for him. Lea constantly complains that we favor Mila because Ollie is more spoiled than Sunny.

Mila and I both tutor at the house. The rule has always been that animals are out of the common areas when we have a student that can’t be around animals. We always let them know in advance and it’s no more than a couple hours. If you refuse to take your pet from a common space and we lose that student, we consider the tutoring fees damage that the pet owner has to pay until that spot is filled by a new student. Lea really struggles with this. She says it’s unfair to lock her cat in the room and that it’s not her responsibility to pay for a kid not being able to be near her cat.

Mila has been doing small groups tutoring. 4 kids per group, 2.5 hours at a time, 2 days a week at $75 per kid per lesson.

She had a student that couldn’t be around animals. She told Lea about it before the kid came and Lea said she’d put her cat in her room before leaving for work. She “forgot” 3 lessons in a row and Mila ended up losing the student. Mila and I talked to her multiple times about her needing to put her cat away but she kept refusing. When Mila lost the student, I told Lea that she was responsible for paying the fee until that spot was filled. It took 3 weeks and Lea had to drain her savings to pay Mila the $450. Now Lea is saying it’s unfair and that we favor Mila and Ollie over her and Sunny.

Am I the asshole for making Lea pay Mila $450