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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/monstargaryen on 2023-09-27 23:16:52.

I’m a single income, no kids uncle. My siblings want me to change my house around to make it kid-friendly so they can bring their young kids over/leave them with me.

I love my family but my house is my sanctuary. I want my stuff as it is. I don’t want to hide away all my fragile or dangerous stuff, cushion sharp edges, gate away stairs and make it kid-friendly. Instead i watch their kids occasionally at my siblings’ places or take their kids out on my own dime.

No one in my family has demanded I comply, shouted or anything like that - they’re just hurt and feel put off.

I stated my case courteously and they said they understood but I know they are disappointed in me and feel my decision prioritizes myself over their kids. Which in truth is the point. I won’t sacrifice my comfort and pleasure in my home so their young kids (under 10) can drop in anytime.

Am I the asshole?