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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/justwanttoreadthread on 2023-09-30 14:04:02.

I was at a bar for dinner recently with my boyfriend (we’re late 20s/early 30s) and my parents - the kind of place where you order beer and food at the bar and sit whoever you want. My boyfriend chats with the bartender, tries a couple, and orders his beer. He tried two distinctly different styles of beer and a middle aged man sitting alone at the bar in front of us made small talk with him about his taste in beer. I wasn’t in the mood to deliberate, so I just ordered the first hazy IPA I saw on the menu. The stranger then says, without turning around, “I might have to take her home with me!” The bartender chuckles and says earlier he told her the beer I ordered was “for girls” so he wouldn’t drink it. I felt super awkward so I just quietly waited for my beer and went back to our table as fast as I could. (It was a loud place and my boyfriend didn’t quite hear what the man said until I told him later.)

I’m having trouble letting go of this interaction. In hindsight, I wish I’d said something like “that’s an inappropriate thing to say to a stranger” or I’d played dumb and asked him to repeat himself. Is this just an innocuous comment from a lonely man who has had one too many drinks? Am I overreacting? What would you have done in this situation?