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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/engineerdoinglife on 2023-10-01 00:19:57.
My husband (34M) and my (31F) wedding anniversary was this week, but we delayed celebrating until this weekend. We do traditional gifts for anniversaries and this year is flowers/fruit. He is not great with gifts and asked for ideas last month and I sent him a link to an Etsy shop that makes “birth flower jewelry” and told him I’d like something with our sons birth flower. I also let him know he could just get me flowers or anything else and that would be fine as well.
For his gift I picked up chocolate covered strawberries, wine (because grapes,) and went to a fancy cheese shop to get some fruit infused cheeses, meat, etc to make a really nice charcuterie spread for tonight. I’m going to create a “picnic” in our living room, and I think it’s going to be really cute. I also got him a card and wrote a heartfelt message. Just for reference.
I assumed that he had figured my gift out BEFORE our anniversary, so imagine my surprise when I opened a prime box and found a jewelry box. I didn’t open it but it was labelled birth flower necklace” so it was obvious. Honestly I’m a little disappointed but I’m not sure if I’m being unfair and could use some perspective.
- If he ordered the gift via prime that means that he didn’t order it until after the actual day of our anniversary had passed.
- The box was labelled with MY birth flower, not my sons. Which is not what I wanted.
- The box/labelling looks very cheap, and looking on Amazon I think he ordered a low quality piece (think Chinese Amazon front, <$20.) when we were younger I would wear jewelry like this and it would always fall apart, color my skin, and/or tarnish quickly.
I’m a bit upset. I spent a significant amount of consideration and money on his gift and he totally flubbed mine in a way that specifically seems very uncaring. He’s going to be giving me the gift tonight so I have about 4 hours to figure out how I’m going to respond. I don’t want to ruin our plans with a fight but I’d like to (gently) tell him I’d rather he order something I will actually wear. Or should I just thank him, not say anything, and just not wear the gift? Am I being entitled?