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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/tryingdandelion on 2023-10-01 16:17:33.

Men (and some lgbtq+ women for that matter) are just not ready for a woman who’s confident and doesn’t feel bad about putting herself first. I’m feeling myself more than I ever have and I’m SO HAPPY with my personality, my body, my sexuality… It feels so good to not have to adjust to other people at all times because my top one priority is me.

The consequence: oh my god my bar for romantic/sexual partners is waaaay higher. I refuse to put up with certain things the way I did and men HATE that! No matter how studied on feminist they think they are they really do prefer us docile. Most would rather we just smile and go along with whatever they want.

Why this all came up? A bad ex said I was way more fun back then and when asked what he meant by that he said I was just more agreeable. Uh… I was more fun when I was depressed and wanted to die? Sad to think you only loved a version of me that loved you but hated herself. Good thing that that poor girl is being well cared for now. I think this all made me feel a little objectified in the sense that I spent so long in a relationship with a man that didn’t actually care for me, but that’s on him. Welp, can’t wait to meet someone that respects me and loves me as much I do them!