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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Extreme-Reaction-471 on 2023-10-01 18:21:01.
I have a four year old daughter. She is in her princess phase. My SIL and I differ on a few things but one thing we differ on is boy and girl clothes/toys. I am not even strict with it, when Emma ( my daughter) was little she wore all types of clothes since she is baby and she doesn’t care. At the time SIL would give baby boy clothes and I didn’t care.
The issue is she keeps doing. Emma is really clearly a girly girl. She likes dresses, she plays with fake makeup, she has a fake kitchen set. She has some boy toys like trucks and what not but they collect dust. I have talked to her before
It was Emma’s birthday yesterday and SIL gave her guy clothes. My daughter made a face when she saw them. I waited until after the party to give them back. My daughter made it retry clear to me that they were ugly and won’t wear them
We got in a huge argument and she called me a jerk for staying with gender stereotypes. I am doubting myself on this.
NTA.
Couple reasons:
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never argue clothing with a four year old you will not win. Sister is a fool for buying stuff kid will not wear
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gifts are meant for the recipient, not the giver
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your sister’s rampant refusal to acknowledge yout daughter’s agency and preferences shows her entire schtick as being performative.
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