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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Still-Ad3011 on 2023-10-02 02:48:05.

I’m a Latina woman married to a white man. We have an 8-year-old daughter with curly hair. I love her hair, and she loves it too.

Last weekend, I noticed she was upset and quiet. I asked what happened, and she didn’t want to tell me. I insisted, and she started crying. She told me her father had made a joke about her hair. He said her hair looked like a rat’s nest and that she should straighten it or cut it. He said it was just a joke and that he loved her hair, but she shouldn’t tell me about the joke.

I was furious and confronted my husband. I started arguing with him and said he was being prejudiced and had hurt our daughter. He apologized and said he didn’t mean to offend anyone. He said he was just trying to make a joke and didn’t see any issue with her hair. He said I needed to stop dwelling on his mistake and that I was overreacting.

I didn’t accept his apologies and continued to argue with him. I told him he had no idea what curly hair means to our daughter and our culture. I said he should respect it and not make such jokes. I said he was foolish for making our daughter feel bad and for making her hide the truth from me. AITA?