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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/eternalkittenMum on 2023-10-02 00:07:39.

Example 1: we took a cute & funny picture together, at a weird angle, that we were sharing with some friends. Laughingly. I made a joke about myself having a big forehead in the picture (again laughingly) and he frowns, and proceeds to turn my direction and give me a ‘pep talk’ about how I shouldn’t talk bad about myself. meanwhile i was just emphasizing how funny the picture was which was the whole point of the conversation we were having at the time.

Example 2: i got home late & he stayed on the phone with me for 20 mins while I was looking for parking outside of my city apartment; I ended up having to walk a bit back to my place once I found a spot. he was asking me about my day throughout the call. as i was sharing and walking back to my apartment, he stopped me mid story to tell me to take a seat and drink some water. although i was a bit out of breath from the stairs in my building: I felt fine. but he started to again, like, give me a pep talk about calming myself and allowing myself to rest, telling me I should take better care of my body and walking me through what I should do to relax the rest of the night…… I was like… I’m…… fine???

Example 3: i came home from work and despite not being super high energy, told him I wanted to possibly have a friend over later that day. I guess he thought I sounded too exhausted to do that, and spent 15 minutes trying to convince me to prioritize my peace and not worry so much about my friend to the point that I ignore my needs and hang out with them, that I work too hard and should give myself respect enough to say no to my friends. but I literally initiated hanging out with them and wanted them to come over. I was just sharing with him that I was a little lower energy than usual because of work.

what is this and how do I handle it? I makes me feel like there is an air of superiority and that he thinks he knows better for me than I do for myself.