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The original was posted on /r/japanlife by /u/TokyoGaijin23 on 2023-10-01 16:21:21.

Ongoing dispute in our household at the moment on whether the cost and effort for juku is worth it, looking for advice from parents that faced the same issue.

Our daughter, 6th grader, is going to juku 4 times a week which is costing us on average 70k per month. She leaves for school at 7:30am and comes home from juku at 7pm. On top of that, she is often having to study in her room until 11pm. This study routine is all being pushed by my spouse.

While of course I want the best education for my child, I don’t at all agree with these extreme levels of study. I see the stress it is causing for our daughter, she is often exhausted, missing out on hanging with friends and has pretty much withdrawn from all other extracurricular activities that she used to enjoy.

The expense of juku aside, I can’t fathom why this is necessary for a child at her age. Yet according to my wife there is no other choice if we want our child to get into a preferred highschool in our area.

Any advice or should I just begrudgingly accept this is the way things are here?